另一個研究則採取每日記錄觀察的方式來研究「伴侶對受試者的支持」與「受試者是否原諒伴侶」之間的關係,結果發現,不安全依附者在21天的觀察之中,很少原諒自己的伴侶,即使是伴侶採取正向的態度對待自己的時後依舊如此;相反的,安全型依附者,在察覺到伴侶釋出善意之後(perceived their spouse to be available),比較會選擇原諒自己的伴侶[21]。而另一個長達六個月的追蹤研究則發現,越是高焦慮傾向的人,在面對伴侶的防衛時,越難去原諒他們[22]。
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